Grief is not about forgetting the person who has died, but about finding ways to remember them and take their memory forward with you in life.

Immediately after the death of their child, most parents find that they can think of little else. After a while you will begin to think about other things, although it is not possible to say when this will be because all people are different.

When you do think about other things, you may feel guilty. But in the months ahead, you may find that certain kinds of remembering help you to mourn your child and to recognise that mourning is important. Your child was and always will be part of your life and family - even if it died as a very tiny baby. These memories often involve a complicated mixture of feelings, including guilt, anger, regret, love, warmth and sometime relief.