Caring for yourself

Grieving is exhausting and it can be especially difficult for parents to look after themselves at this time. Taking some exercise, such as going for a walk, may help them to feel less tired and tense. Parents need to be encouraged to make a little time to do something that they enjoy.

Many parents find they are helped when they give themselves time to talk about their feelings - some find they need spiritual support from a minister or the help of an experienced bereavement or relationship counsellor. Other parents find it helpful to go back to the hospital to talk things through again with the nurse or midwife who cared for them and their child. Most hospitals will be pleased to arrange a time for you to do this - some have someone working in bereavement support who may be able to see you in the months ahead. For some people, it helps to talk or write to others who have had a similar experience.

This website has a discussion forum for families please click here to have a look.