Grief is not about forgetting the person who has died, but about finding ways to remember them and take their memory forward with you in life.
Immediately after the death of their child, most parents find that they can think of little else. After a while you will begin to think about other things, although it is not possible to say when this will be because all people are different.
When you do think about other things, you may feel guilty. But in the months ahead, you may find that certain kinds of remembering help you to mourn your child and to recognise that mourning is important. Your child was and always will be part of your life and family - even if he/she died as a very tiny baby. These memories often involve a complicated mixture of feelings, including guilt, anger, regret, love, warmth and sometimes relief.
You may find our information sheet Remembering useful.
Precious Love Memorials
A Previous Love Memorial is way of commemorating someone special to you; it allows you, and all those you choose, to remember someone who has died. A Precious Love Memorial can also offer people a positive way to show their own feelings, by contributing to the Child Bereavement Charity, to make sure that support is there for people who find themselves in similar situations in years to come.
The Precious Love Memorials are named after the Precious Love Rose, which was commissioned for and donated to the charity by bereaved parents Paul and Louise Woodbridge, in memory of their twins Betsy and William, who died in an accident at home in 2004.